Genteel
Part of speech: adjective
Definition: Polite, well-mannered. Not vulgar or rude. Stylish or elegant. aristocratic
Cultured
Part of speech: adjective
Definition: Learned in the ways of civilized society; civilized; refined.Artificially developed.
Part of speech: verb
Definition: To maintain in an environment suitable for growth (especially of bacteria) (compare cultivate)
Example sentence: The big part of that Victorian era, particularly in Canada, was people being more cultured and not being in the colonies and barbaric. It was all about etiquette and being proper and social graces.